An advice column question that shows how losers think
One of the perks of being married is being sucked into my wife’s activities.
I could be daydreaming about how I could have stopped Genghis Khan and then boom!
I’m doing something with my wife not realizing what century I am in.
Anyway, this one time my wife started reading me questions from this advice column called Dear Prudence.
This one guy wrote a question about how he is afraid of militant feminism and their whole idealogy of how women can’t fully give consent until the age of 25 etc.
He goes on wondering what to do since he is scared of being accused of rape and all. I can’t remember what Prudence said, but I can tell you what I think of this situation.
This dude is projecting his insecurities onto this militant feminism ideology.
Because when you go out in the real world and interact with women, you don’t meet too many militant feminists.
It’s like saying you are afraid to talk to a Muslim because of ISIS.
I’m Muslim and I have not met anyone who was even close to being a terrorist.
I digress.
This dude is using his fake fears of being accused of rape to probably not meet and date women.
And methinks this dude is just bad with women in general.
So instead of taking the hard pill of recognizing that he sucks in dating and trying to improve himself, he finds a fake fear to latch on to.
And the sad thing is that I see this mentality all over the internet.
My favorite pastime is reading YouTube comments.
However, I see a lot of guys trashing women there saying women only care about money, looks, muscles, and shallow things.
Again, if you interact with women in the REAL world. You’ll find that some women want a guy who is fun, others will want a guy that is interesting, and others will want a guy who has his shit together.
The world is full of diverse people, yet these guys impose their fake fears on the world to justify their inaction.
We, The Charismatic Nerds, have to be careful that we don’t do the same thing.
When we are failing in something, we have to be careful that we don’t lie to ourselves, and claim some fake fear in order to justify our failures.
We have to practice self-honesty and look for ways to improve.
Mind you, it’s not easy admitting that we suck at something, but what’s worse?
Initially feeling uncomfortable with our failures, but using our self-honesty in getting progressively better, where we finally reach the results we wanted and more.
Or feeling comfortable with the lies about our fake fears and getting progressively worse as we never reach the results we wanted.
The choice is simple.
So don’t be like that dude asking Prudence a question or the other losers on the internet lying about why they are failures.
Go be honest with yourself and make progress.
And over time, you’ll see that there was nothing to be afraid of.
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