How I convinced a guy to take therapy

This past Saturday I woke up at 5:30 AM to pick up my lady from a sleep study. Then had to go help a friend move at 9 AM.

So I was a bit tired that morning.

But nonetheless, I was going to make the most of my day.

Cus hey, it could have been my last.

While helping my friend move, I met some of his friends who there to help. They were cool and polite individuals. And funny enough, I had to ride in the car with one of them.

I thought to myself, ‘time to lubricate my social skills.’

But I’ll be honest, I wasn’t looking forward to being social, but the show had to go on.

Anyways, the guy is driving and we start talking. He told me his background: Pharmacist, second-generation Korean, been in Ontario for all his life.

Then in the conversation, we turned to books, and he knew a lot of the concepts I drool over.

That’s when The Charismatic Nerd came in.

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So I go on about the books I’ve read and my life experience.

At one point, I told him about all the existential philosophy/psychology books I’ve read. And he countered those ideas and told me that he didn’t find them actionable.

I countered that with my own compelling points, but told him that I was able to understand these philosophers and psychologists more clearly after completing a year of therapy.

Then I went on how therapy helped me.

This piqued the fellow’s interest, so we started talking about therapy.

He seemed interested in therapy and he told me he thought about taking it in the past. So I asked him what’s stopping him.

He told me he could not justify spending $200/hour for it.

This is when Uncle Bulcha came in.

I told this guy, that I spent thousands of dollars on therapy while unemployed and footing the bills when my lady went to a different province for school.

Even though it cost me a lot financially and emotionally, I came out of therapy with peace in my heart. And I developed a sense of calm about life, where no matter what happens in the future, whether my wife is gone, my parents die, I lose everything. I know I will be fine.

Therapy helped me develop the self-respect and confidence to deal with whatever comes in the future.

And that is priceless.

If therapy cost me a million dollars, it still would have been worth it.

In the midst of my unromantic monologue, I told this fellow that $200/hour does not even compare to what you will get from resolving your internal issues.

And even if money is an issue, you can still go to therapy once a month, or once every two months. You just have to put in more work in between sessions.

I told this guy that we have one shot at life.

Only one.

So we have to do everything in our power to make the most of it.

I had to show this guy his mortality and make him understand that he has to take responsibility for his life.

The whole point of this long story is that you don’t need logic or justifications to find inner peace.

Do everything in your power to get it.

Because with how fast the world changes, you’re only going to have yourself.

And best believe you better have it in the best condition to deal with the uncertain future confidently.

Anyways, to be anti-climatic, the dude was convinced in taking therapy and I introduced him to my therapist.

Life is too short guys, so make sure you take care of yourself.

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