How to approach difficult conversations

Difficult conversations.

If you’re a human being, you probably had your fair share of them.

Whether it’s telling someone you care about the truth, asking your boss for a raise, or standing up to someone picking on you.

Difficult conversations come in all shapes and sizes.

Yet, they never get easier over time.

For the longest time, I hated difficult conversations. I would do anything to avoid them, including lie. But after going through therapy and developing self-honesty, I’ve learned to embrace difficult conversations.

Mind you, I still don’t find them as easy.

But the way I approach them is significantly better.

When I am about to have a difficult conversation, I remind myself that I am allowing myself to grow through this experience.

It’s only during these uncomfortable moments where I can grow.

Realizing this truth and seeing that there is a better and more whole Bulcha at the end of that difficult conversation gives me the peace to know that I am going to be okay.

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When you put yourself through a difficult session, you use dormant aspects of yourself.

That’s why people grow and feel more mature after rough periods.

But when you choose to run away from difficult conversations or situations. Well, you are allowing those great aspects of yourself to remain dormant.

And worse, you are building a habit to run away

Nobody ever blessed the coward.

Whether it be in battle, love, or honor.

And when people choose to run away from difficult conversations, they are feeding that cowardly aspect of their existence.

And being a person who had lived a cowardly existence for years, trust me, you gain nothing.

Instead of growing, you stagnate.

Instead of exploring, you stay in the same place.

Instead of challenging the status quo, you become a slave to the rules.

I am not trying to make a big deal out of the topic of difficult conversations.

But remember:

How you do one thing, is a sign of how you do everything.

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