The annoying thing about Canadians
I am Canadian.
Lived in Canada almost my entire life, minus 6 months.
Anyway, during all this time living in Canada, I’ve come to notice one annoying thing about Canadians.
It doesn’t matter if it’s in school, work, or with friends.
You’ll see this with a majority of Canadians.
This annoying trait is how Canadians are hyper-focused on never offending.
Some might think ‘what’s the problem with this?’
Well, the problem is that Canadians are afraid to address problems immediately and hope they go away by themselves.
You might think I’m kidding but I am not.
A few weeks ago, I was waiting for the elevator at my apartment. When the elevator door opened, there was a guy with his two-year-old daughter. Since it’s COVID season, I asked the man if he was okay with me coming onto the elevator.
He hesitated and begrudgingly said yes.
It’s clear this man did not want me on the elevator, but he did not want to offend me.
I straight up told this dude that it’s okay to say no and that if he is uncomfortable with me coming on, it’s okay.
The guy then said he wasn’t comfortable, which was cool with me.
But you see what I mean, Canadians don’t want to offend even if it costs them something.
And the big problem of being so focused on not wanting to offend others too much is that you end up lying to yourself.
Because to deal with any form of conflict, you need honesty.
Honesty to address the issue.
Yet, when you choose to not deal with the issue, you have to lie to yourself to justify postponing it or worse even ignore it.
Over time, this leads you to be passive-aggressive and not having the courage to stand up for the things you believe in.
We have to understand that conflict is part of life.
Always has and always will.
Yet, we need to balance it.
Which means you don’t go Sparta on me, but don’t go all Gandhi on me either
You need to be okay with conflict in a balanced manner.
Because when you learn how to deal with conflict, you will learn how to deal with your inner conflict.
So going forward, make the promise to deal with conflict. Have the resolve to deal with it right away.
And over time, you’ll come to see that most conflicts aren’t that big of a deal.
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