The hobo that tried to trick me
Time for a story.
One time when I lived in the ghetto side of my hometown, I was taking the bus home.
There was a shifty looking fellow. Ragtag clothing, dirty, but chill.
He asked me and fellow bus riders if he could use our cellphones. Most people said no, including me. And whenever he got rejected, he was taken aback.
He couldn’t believe that nobody would give him their cellphone. So he went to explain how he lived in a rich neighborhood and was a wealthy fellow.
Well, here’s the thing:
If you claim X attribute, then you most likely don’t have it.
Because if you have to explain to people that you have some virtue or characteristics, then you don’t have it. Anybody who has the coveted attribute, doesn’t need to tell people. His actions alone communicate it.
For the shady hobo, he was dressed like he was mud wrestling with a hog. And without even having to tell us, we could tell he was a hobo.
This rule also applies to when people say they don’t like or have X negative attribute, but in reality have it. I see this all the time when girls say they don’t like drama but are the ones perpetrating drama in their lives and others.
Or how about the chicks that say they’re not your typical gal, but they are.
I could keep going.
So guys, don’t be the person using his mouth to claim you are the shit. Be the shit by taking action.
Whether you believe you are the shit or not, does not matter. What matters is if you take action. And by taking action, you will become the shit.
That’s how life works.
Not by talking and claiming whatever.
By taking action and building a world you want.
Listen to me, you are always communicating to the world who you truly are. And the best way to make sure you are communicating the right message to people is by taking the necessary action. Action will forever be louder than words.
Want to come off as social, then be social with people.
Want to come off as intelligent, then be reading excellent books.
Want to come off as attractive, then be non-needy around people.
As the great and corny Marcus Aurelius wrote in Meditations:
“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.”
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