The O.B.G. Syndrome infecting a lot of young men
The O.B.G. syndrome.
You’ve never heard of it, but you can recognize it throughout your life. I’m sure you have met countless people who have been infected by it.
They were in your classes in high school and university.
There might even be one or two at your workplace.
No matter where you go, you will find someone with the O.B.G. syndrome. And you know they have it because they annoy the hell out of you.
They’re so needy and do everything by the book.
The O.B.G. syndrome is the Obedient Good Boy syndrome. They’ll do everything to be considered obedient to whatever authority figure. Whether it be their teacher, their manager, their crush, etc.
And the biggest problem with the O.B.G. syndrome, besides it being annoying, is the fact that people who have it give up some power over their lives.
Rollo May in his book Man’s Search for Himself wrote that people who are very obedient give up responsibility in their lives. They truly believe that if they follow all the rules set by the authority, they will be taken care of by that same authority.
Nobody will ever take care of you!
You have to take 100% responsibility in your life.
Just because you’re obedient doesn’t mean shit. Think of all the loyal employees doing their very best for years at a company, only to get laid off when times get tough.
This O.B.G. syndrome is fatal to living a fulfilling life because you give up your personal power in being independent. You lean on the authority figure, hoping they will reward you for your efforts, but it never does.
Anybody who has this syndrome always seems phony. In school, it was the teacher’s pet or at work the suck-up. People like this were always disliked.
Ironically, the person who is respectful and not overly obedient is that one that gets more respect. Instead of pandering to authority, they know when to appropriately challenge them and offer new ideas. These people know how to add value.
Everybody is unique and should not be afraid to express themselves, but people who have O.B.G. syndrome repress themselves to be obedient.
It’s very tragic and I see more and more people falling for this syndrome.
And the most painful result is that after giving up their best years to this syndrome, they realize that all their hard work was in vain. Putting all that effort into pleasing the authority left them with nothing in the end. Had they used that same energy and time for themselves, they would have lived a more courageous and honest life.
At the end of the day, we have to realize that we only have ourselves. No guarantees that people will be able to help us.
So you might as well be prepared to take care of yourself.
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