The real worst-case scenarios you forget about

Say you see an attractive girl out in public.

She glances at you a couple of times with a coy smile.

You decide to muster up the courage and go talk to her.

You approach the girl and say hi.

The girl looks you in the eye and says hi back.

Then out of nowhere, she punches you in the gut and runs away laughing.

I know this is a crazy story, but this could potentially happen when you approach an attractive girl. Yet, most guys don’t ever think they’ll get a cheap shot in the stomach when talking to a girl.

The reason I mention this is to show you that you never actually think of all the real worst-case scenarios.

Instead, most guys think of the one fake worst-case scenario: getting rejected by the girl.

And that’s the problem.

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When we approach somewhat challenging things in life, we easily get scared off by normal results that aren’t threatening at all.

When we don’t take the time to think about our journey, we are setting ourselves up to get scared of the (regular) minor bumps in the road.

Seneca, the Roman Stoic, mentioned that when we think about the difficulties that life can realistically throw at us, we become more prepared. And when you prepare yourself for potentially getting rejected by a girl, you take the fear of rejection away.

Let’s bring up another example: Networking.

People are deathly scared of getting rejected while networking. When in reality, the only thing that should be scary is getting a Stone Cold Stunner from the person you’re trying to network with.

Yet, getting manhandled while you network is extremely rare.

So why be scared of a normal aspect of networking?

I guess the point I’m trying to chokeslam to you guys is:

Don’t confuse minor bumps in your journey with worst-case scenarios.

When you really think about the journey, you are going to realize that rejections or other minor bumps in life are not life-threatening and normal. So why fret over these things.

And many of the real worst-case scenarios are rare.

It’s just a matter of getting that clarification yourself.

So go out there and live.

The world is not as scary as you think.

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