What my dumb shot in basketball reminded me about insecurities

My basketball career is controversial.

I talk a lot of trash.

I take a lot of shots.

And I’m at best an average player.

So when I play ball, it’s a wild time.

Back in my college days, I was part of a fraternity. And they took part in basketball intramurals.

I had a rep for being a wild ballplayer, but they invited me on the team.

So before one of the games, a guy on my team told me to not take any dumb shots and to only make smart plays.

I promised him I wouldn’t do anything dumb.

30 seconds into the game, I took a three-point shot, while being defended by two players.

And I air-balled the shot.

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The guy that just told me to not do something stupid was livid. He was talking shit about me in the third person.

I was not going to let that slide.

Anyways, during the game, I made some shots and got pretty hot.

Once the game was over, I walked over to my teammate that was talking shit and let him have it.

I ripped this guy a new one and told him:

If you’re going to call me out for my bad shots, you better praise me for my good shots.

Since that day, the guy has never complained about my shot selection.

And this reminded me about dealing with insecurities.

You see, insecurities are like that hot headed teammate of mine. They will come to you when you make mistakes.

And they will overreact.

So whenever that happens, you got to talk shit back and remind yourself of all your great qualities and past success.

When you do that consistently, your insecurities are going to back off.

One false idea that people have is how being confident is to have no insecurities. Which is completely wrong.

To be confident is to deal with your insecurities successfully.

You see how I didn’t say get rid of insecurities but to deal with them.

Insecurities are always going to be a part of your life and you need to realize how to deal with them. And the best way to do that is to be conscious of your great qualities.

Had I not challenged my teammate after the game, he would have still kept talking shit about my basketball skills.

Only when I stood up for myself did he back off.

And the same goes for your insecurities.

Whenever they come up, challenge them.

And over time, you’re going to have the natural confidence to do something bold like taking a half-court three-pointer.

Alright, that’s it for my basketball story. I also wanted to let you guys know that if you have any questions, feel free to shoot them my way.

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