You’re always choosing between these two

I’ve been reading Abraham Maslow too much.

It’s getting to the point where I think I am a pseudo-psychologist. But let’s ignore that for now.

What I do want to talk about is a principle that Maslow mentioned in his book Toward A Psychology of Being.

This principle he mentioned was that we are always choosing between two sides in our lives. Every single decision can be easily categorized into these two sections: Safety and Growth.

Everything you do can be labeled by one of these two.

For me and my chronic self-analysis, I realized that most of my life, my actions put me in the Safety category. And this was during my time from the age of 17–24. Sadly, I experienced very little growth over this period.

Hindsight is 20/20, but I can’t help but look back at all the decisions I made. It makes so much sense why I experienced so little in life.

When I graduated from my first degree, instead of working and doing shit, I went back to school for another degree.

When girls were showing obvious interest in me, I would self-sabotage and refuse to move anything forward.

When I was living in a toxic environment, I stayed, since that was all I knew and I was afraid of the extra responsibility of paying more bills.

I could keep going, but so many of my life decisions were based on Safety. Had I any inclination for growth, I would have never come back for a second undergraduate degree, I would have had a lot more fun with girls, and I would have moved out and enjoyed a healthier environment.

So please let this be a warning for you guys.

Every decision you are making is either for Safety or Growth. And living a life for Growth now is a million times better than living a life of Safety.

I can take risks, work on passion projects, spend time with people I enjoy.

When you choose a life of Growth, you become more and live a life full of richness.

Whereas most people today are stale and don’t have much outside their social media followers. You have a life worth living.

So choose Growth and live.

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